Coincidence or is something else going on?

Since the painful years of 2018 and 2019 where we lost family member after family member, every "anniversary" or birthday has been painful.  By anniversary, it could be the annual wedding anniversary or the anniversary of the day we lost a precious loved one.   

Yes, the pain is less severe and at times it shows up as just a tear or two, but it is still a hole in our hearts and a reminder of the emptiness we feel inside.  The pictures and videos, especially those that appear throughout the year on Facebook or on those special days sometimes hurt but other times just warms our hearts and reminds us of the special person who is no longer here.

Since then though, a surreal pattern has occurred that has all of us feeling like something bigger is going on, a higher power is getting involved and that it is more than just pure coincidence.

Our first loss on, March 21st 2018, was that of Miguel, Luisa's brother.  He fought an incredible fight with cancer with grace, dignity and faith that left us in awe and something to aspire to, if we ever find ourselves being led down our own painful and challenging paths. 

Exactly two years to the day of his passing, we welcomed the arrival of Miguel's grandson, Beckam.  A bundle of joy that the entire family believes Miguel had a hand in, to send him down from heaven to let us know that March 21st was a day to look forward to, not regret.

I have written before that I shared birthdays with my mom and the pain I felt when she passed away in early 2019.  For the next two birthdays, I struggled to feel complete and lacked the desire to celebrate my birthday.  It felt just like another reminder of what I lost.  Every year I looked forward to enjoying a Carvel ice cream cake with my mom and to experience the uncontrollable laughs as I gave her a hard time because of her single flavor choice - Vanilla.

After two lonely birthdays, Mom sent me a new birthday buddy, Kaden. This year, Kaden will be turning 1 and the plans are already being made for he and I to celebrate our mutual birthday with Ice Cream.  I even purchased a new Ice Cream maker so that he can enjoy homemade Ice Cream for this special day.  Yes, it will be Vanilla but I may add something special in it as well, just because.

The third "coincidence" occurred just this past week.  My father-in-law passed away two months before my mom on March 11, 2019.  Miguel Humberto, Luisa's father declined in health significantly over a period of several months but his health began to deteriorate from the stress of watching his son battle his cancer.   He was my 2nd father, and reflected the spirit and soul of the entire family.  

On March 11th, 2022, Luisa and I welcomed the birth of our first grandchild, Audriana.  Daughter to our son Dan and wife Jill, Dan had a special relationship with his grandfather "Papi Gray" as he called him.  Living life to the fullest and showing us all how to live for today, not tomorrow.

In our family, the loss of 3 of our most special anchors left us feeling empty and full of pain and despair on every anniversary since their passing.  These 3 special births, able to arrive on any of the 365 days of the year, arrived on exactly the day that we needed them most.  To change the day from a day of pain to a day of joy.  To give us a day to celebrate and laughter instead of tears.  To give us hope and to remind us of the beauty of life, and what matters most to us.